[It’s T.W.O, Talk With Ogefash Baby]
Hi Ogefash, I always feel lonely; am I alone?
Collins Dictionary defines “Alone” as “The act of feeling alone, the act of feeling that nobody is with you, and, nobody cares about you.
In layman’s language: Alone means “only you”, it is the absence of someone or something in your life. No one is around you, not to talk of being around to support you.
So, are you alone?
You are not alone” “You are not alone” You are not alone” were the four words a female facilitator said repeatedly as I went to a job seminar with high hopes of returning home with an employment letter. Not my fault though, their campaign for people to show up at the seminar, made it look so.
Who could blame me for having such high hopes about the seminar; after graduation from the University, I searched for jobs tirelessly for years; but all effort to find one was futile. There was no money; struggling became a friend of mine. I felt so lonely; I felt so disfavored; it was to me like help was far from me. To me, it was like God abandoned me.
And here was I at a job seminar with the female facilitator reiterating the four words “You are not alone”
“How na?” I said to no one in particular
Just then, like the female facilitator heard me, she said:
“God never leaves you alone; regardless of the challenges, there would always be someone out there to help you.”
I have over time pondered on this, and now, I have realized that I am not alone. Do you often think you are alone too and there’s no helper around you?
Well, you need to chew over this, as in ponder over it well.
Look around you, you may not be where you are but you are surviving even though it seems like a cliché. The economy is bad, “Oh I am cashless in a cashless society, there is never money on me, no money in my account” but somehow when you need money urgently, it comes your way. You may not be eating what you desire [like me, if it is possible, I would be eating chicken and chips, fried rice, and just snacks as my meal] or the three squares of meals, but there is always food on your table.
Think about that interview you were preparing to go for without having any cash, but somehow, someone showed up and gave you transportation fare for the interview [Amoye interviews that I have gone for that people were the ones that gave me tfare]. You are not wearing Gucci or D&G, but somehow you have got clothes on you. You can’t afford a new pair of shoes, but somehow the old ones still fit your beautiful legs and are not chewed up.
Think about it!
There would always be some help sent your way whether through friends, families, colleagues, and surprisingly, even your enemies. How can enemies help you may ask? At times your enemies, who are working against you, end up working things in your favor.
This applies to me also; I have been a full-time blogger for years with no revenue coming in, not from the blog or anyone. But then, I have been blogging. That help just suddenly comes my way for “data” to blog. Sometimes, I go to my brother’s office for free data to browse. I know people mock me, like, this blogger that doesn’t have money, but, I don’t care. As far as I love what I am doing, and I believe in it, I know that one day it would eventually pay.
What about my blog bills? In a year I was paying about a $1000 for my blogs till I switched hosting. How did I get this money? I remember I had to loan some amount from Mum Nifemi, a parent that I thought the children [private lesson]. So, at the end of the month, she was always removing her money till I was able to settle my debt.
There is also a business mogul, Mr. Tunde Ekpekurede, who loaned me naira and dollars to pay for my blog bills, and whenever I receive my Adsterra earning [sometimes it takes 3 to 4 months, or lesser if you visit my blogs and the traffic increases], he removes his money till I fully settle my debt.
Also, when I need to drop proposals at companies, I get that transportation fare miraculously. When I am deterred, I always remember those four words again “You are not alone!”
Mrs. Folorunso Alakija one said “Don’t try to force yourself into rooms or positions. Just be humble, and at the right time, doors would open unto you.”
Be humble!!! Keep Pushing!!!! Keep Believing!!!
So, in this regard, I am leaving you with the 4 words “You are not alone!”