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“SORRY” IS NOT A GENUINE APOLOGY “I AM SORRY” IS! HERE IS WHY…

“SORRY” IS NOT A GENUINE APOLOGY “I AM SORRY” IS

 “Sorry” is a word uttered to someone to show remorse for an act done intentionally or unintentionally. However, its usage matters a lot.

Now, to the main gist; If you have been in a situation where you were the offender, and you needed to apologize to the one offended; I must let you know that if you had made an apology to the person with the single word “Sorry”; that apology ain’t genuine enough. But if you made the apology with the word “I am sorry” that is genuine enough.

When you just utter “Sorry” to someone you have offended knowingly or unknowingly, it doesn’t show remorse or genuine repentance. That apology is not genuine.; ko genuine rara (at all). Like it was forced out of you. To me, that means you don’t feel bad for your wrongs and you don’t want to own your mistakes.

But “I am sorry” is quite the opposite. It shows remorse. It shows that you are feeling rueful for an act done knowingly or unknowingly. It shows that you truly feel bad for your wrongs and you own your mistakes.

Let me even share my experience with you a few days ago. As I was walking on a particular road not far from my house, a guy in a vehicle without looking carefully, opened the vehicle door just when I was passing by the car. The car door almost hit me, but I am glad it did not.

As I finally walked past the car, I noticed that the guy did not even have the decency to say sorry, and when he finally said it as I moved far away from the car, he had said it with no remorse “Sorry o”

What a joker!  I said in my mind

 

 

On a final note, always own your mistakes! Be courageous enough to acknowledge that you are at fault. A simple “I am sorry” really wouldn’t pinch or soil your reputation, but instead, it would make it solid. Oro niye fun e! (That’s a word for you!)

 

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Born in the 80’s, Ogefash picked up writing early in her secondary school days at International School, University of Lagos (Unilag). She took it professionally after her university days at the University of Lagos where she graduated from the Department of Mass Communication. She is a writer of several short stories some of which have been published in the magazines. Some of her popular stories are: A Night to Remember, The Special Gift, Haunted, Preparing Ahead of Time amongst others. Her novel "Looming Danger" published in December 2015, was highly recommended by people. She has worked with several media outlets some of which are Spur Magazine and Upcoming Magazine. She is an educationist. With her love for children, she took up the task of supervising and taking care of children at the After School Department of Heritage School before her resignation. Her unique strory telling and song teaching skills endeared her more to the kids she worked with. Ogefash is a goal getter, a pace setter and always strives for excellence. She likes to impact and solve problems in a creative way regardless how challenging they may be. She has in-depth knowledge in reporting, editing, social media and other media related works. She is a seasoned writer and very passionate about her work. Interestingly, her blog is the first in Nigeria to start reviewing Nigerian and foreign movies and also write the movies' plots scene by scene. Ogefash blog is also the first to translate songs, interprete and give a full detailed analysis about music and artistes in Nigeria, Africa and America before other blogs started emulating her style. While other blogs provided just music lyrics alone, we took it higher by not only providing lyrics, but translating, interpreting and analyzing as well. It is also the first blog to give detailed analysis of adverts. Interestingly, Ogefash blog also known as Ogefash Photo Blog is the first blog all over the world to blog with lots of interesting pictures to support all articles. Ogefash says "I don't keep male friends because they always say "sex" is part of friendship. I don't keep female friends because they are always bitchy. I only keep people I can call more than a friend!" Ogefash has an affinity for TV reality shows. In 2018, she represented Nigeria in the PanAfrican TV reality game show "The Maltavator Challenge" powered by Nigeria's number one malt drink packed full of energy giving vitamins B1, B2, B3 and B6;Malta Guinness. The show brought together four African countries Nigeria, Ghana, Ethiopia and Coted'ivoire who competed for the grand prize of 20,000 dollars. Undaunted by any task in her field, Ogefash is highly energetic and creative. She is a rare gem and a gift to this generation.

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