Hi Ogefash, please how do I handle someone that is extremely obsessed with me , because I don’t have feelings for that person.
Merriam webster dicitonary defines obsession as
:a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling; broadly :compelling motivation an obsession with profits has an obsession with gambling, or obsession with anything (i added this)
While handling someone that is extremely obsessed, don’t do the following
1. Switch off phone
Don’t even try to do that, because the person would keep calling your line non-stop till it is reachable and in that process, your number automatically stores in his heart and his head.
2. Avoid his calls
This is also a bondage format as the person would keep calling your number non-stop. He or she would feel it’s because you have extreme feelings for him/her that you are avoiding his/her call. At times, such people people wouldn’t even think that you are avoiding them, they would just conclude for you that you are busy or unable to pick up the call for some reasons, and he/she will keep calling you non stop. As a matter of fact- for one call missed- it is like ten times in their heart, so they would call you that ten times. So if you calculate three missed called, you can imagine what that would be in their heart.
3. Don’t cut calls
It is as simple as ‘don’t cut the calls because, he or she would still keep calling.
4. Block number
Well, this would have been the best option if the person doesn’t have your home address or if you are not on social media, cos if you have a social media account, he/she would search for you, and find every possible way to get to you. And of course, a sim card is affordable, so he/she would likely buy another one to get to you
5. Acting nicely
Don’t even try putting him or her in a friendly chat. If you do that, you are in trouble. Such person would think you are already in relationship with him or her. If you are nice to him, it would keep drawing such person close to you; that is, he or she would keep being fond of you. In essence, don’t be nice and don’t be hostile.
Don’t think that by shouting at him/her, he or she would let you go, no that wont happen. He or she is obsessed with you and doesn’t notice that, infact, he or she would think it’s because you love him/her is the reason you are shouting.
7. Don’t play lesbian
So how do you set yourself free from such person- it is very simple
After you have adhered to the above points, you are on your way to letting go. So, you must ensure you act indifferently with him. Don’t be nice and don’t be rude.
So, this is it, whenever he/she calls, make sure you always say things that would infuriate him/her (How? you would ask, study him, there must be something that infuriates him/her). Don’t shout it, just chip it in in your conversation with him or her. You would see that the call rate would drop and he/she would eventually stop calling you.
And if he/she keeps calling, you can pick the call, but don’t talk to him/her; just be mum, till the airtime is exhausted.
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